Love Note # 26: Love me, Appreciate me!

One of my favorite salsa songs is called "Love me, Appreciate me". I love salsa music because it is so honest. The songs tell you exactly what the artist is feeling. I wish we can express our feelings in our relationships in the same way. As women, we tend to hold back our true feelings. We drop hints to our mates hoping they will get the big picture, but they never do...do they! This is mostly due to our fear of disappointment, but men are a simple. Men do not look for clues on how you feel, so if you pretending to be happy...then happy you are! If you want to go out to eat and you say its okay to stay home ... well, your are staying home. Communication is a big part of a happy and healthy relationship, so start saying what you feel. When you express your true feelings, you'll get what you want, so enjoy!


Signing Off,
Lyles on Love

Love Note # 122 "The Great Pretender"

Are you faking a relationship because you are scared of being alone? This is a no win situation for all involved. This seems to stem from something or someone in your past that has cause you to believe you do not deserve the best or true happiness. So you settle, and pretend your relationship is fine! The bigger question is..."is being alone so bad?"

I remember when my close friends were in relationships and I was just in the dating scene. I can honestly say, I was never envious or jealous of  them. Why? Well, because I was happy with me. I loved just being with me. I enjoyed learning new things on my own and dating taught me what I liked and disliked in a partner. I would rather be alone then to be in a fake relationship!

Love Rule #1: Before you can love anyone you have to learn to love yourself first!
Life Rule # 1: Fear can cause you to miss out on a great thing!

Signing off,
Lyles on Love

Love Note #321

The first date is all about you...is it? Remember, there should be a lot of give and take during the first date; no one likes a silent partner. Everyone should have their turn to present themselves. This conversation, should be about positive things; light and upbeat. Try not to reveal everything about yourself, leave your date wanting to hear more (hint date #2). If someone is dominating the conversation without offering you the opportunity to speak, this might be a sign of other selfish things to come. Evaluate wisely, this could be nervousness or a big ego. You will know for sure soon enough!

What your dating or relationship question?

Signing Off,
Lyles on Love