Women love the idea of love. We especially love the warm gooey feeling of new love. We fantasize about the first kiss, the first “I love you”, long walks in the park, changing our Facebook relationship status, riding off into the sunset and growing old with that special someone. However, the problems arise when these dreams are formed under the influence of pre-packaged, just-add-water misconceptions about romance. In the quest for love we may fail to reconcile the fantasy of love with what makes relationships actually function in the real world: hard work.
I am noticing a troubling dichotomy in the dating force. There is a cross-section of women that are so caught up in their own pre-baked fantasy, complete with so many particulars and checklists, that they actually have boxed themselves into being un-dateable. On the other end of the spectrum are women so scared to be alone, so consumed by the fantasy, that they have all but given up and thrown any standards to the wind. They would settle for any dude with a pulse, or, I suspect, a really hot vampire. This is concerning to me because in both circumstances the outcome is the same; no one is building healthy, sustainable relationships.
by Andrea Michelle at UPTOWN Magazine
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